What does HackerNews think of JoltPhysics?
A multi core friendly rigid body physics and collision detection library suitable for games and VR applications.
For example, Horizon: Forbidden West uses a custom physics engine that started out as one of the core dev's fun side projects: https://github.com/jrouwe/JoltPhysics
Physics engines (at least game quality physics engines) are starting to drift in to "solved problem" territory and there's enough literature now that you can get something reasonable going yourself after doing some weekend reading.
Edit to add: Godot has had its own engine available for a long time, so it's not a totally new effort. It's a heavy refactor and a large improvement but the bones for this were laid years ago so some of that technical debt you're describing has already been paid down.