You have to introduce ordering in your KPIs. If developer experience is more important, then you can get better results with cross platform. If user experience is more important, then you are virtually guaranteed to get better results with native. Personally I’m of the opinion that user experience should never be subordinate to developer experience, so at least for me the choice is clear: native.

Also consider whether you will benefit from a broad install base, i.e. when building a social app, or if you can go for one platform first. Lastly, I’d consider the stage your in, i.e, are you trying to find product market fit or not.

If native stills feels like a lot of extra work, I’d suggest building a common core, in e.g. Rust, to share non-UI code between the platforms.